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Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder: Communication Skills to Manage Intense Emotions, Set Boundaries, and Reduce Conflict

Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder: Communication Skills to Manage Intense Emotions, Set Boundaries, and Reduce Conflict

by Randi Kreger (Author), Jerold J Kreisman (Author)

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Synopsis

In this compassionate guide, Jerold Kriesman-author of I Hate You, Don't Leave Me-offers a powerful set of tools to help you express yourself, set boundaries, and cultivate healthy communication with a loved one who is diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD).

If you have a loved one with BPD, you need real, proven-effective strategies to help you navigate the intense emotions and conflict that can arise in daily interactions and conversations. People with BPD often feel anger, pain, and hurt from a history of invalidation and disappointment, and their difficulty in regulating emotions can lead to moments of lashing out that can confuse and upset those around them.

Written by a psychiatrist with more than 40 years of experience in treating BPD, I Hate You, Tell Me You Love Me offers a breakthrough, compassionate approach to communicating with a loved one who has BPD. The SET (support, empathy, truth) method outlined in this book is a powerful and simple tool that will allow you to honestly address your loved one's demands, assertions, and feelings while still maintaining appropriate boundaries. Each step builds on the last, helping you build up a consistent and reliable communication process.

In this book, you'll find a review of BPD and the common communication problems inherent in the disorder. You'll learn how SET can address these issues. And finally, you'll find detailed examples of specific scenarios that can arise when talking to a loved one with BPD.

Remember-validation isn't the same as agreement. You can help your loved one feel validated while still maintaining your own boundaries. This essential guide will show you how.

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Format: Illustrated
 Pages: 176
 Edition: Illustrated
 Publisher: New Harbinger
Published: 27 Dec 2018
ISBN 10: 1684030463
ISBN 13: 9781684030460

Media Reviews
Borderline personality disorder (BPD), which can be difficult for clinicians to manage, can also be painful for families and loved ones. They need help to avoid conflict and to respond in helpful ways. This book, written in highly accessible language, provides many practical tips on communicating about intense emotions and understanding troubled people.
--Joel Paris, MD, professor in the department of psychiatry at McGill University, and author of Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder--Joel Paris, MD
For anyone who loves, lives with, or must care for a person struggling with BPD, Jerold Kreisman has written another useful guide full of empathic and pragmatic techniques. All too often, interactions with these individuals prove to be confusing, painful, and sometimes infuriating; Kreisman outlines a detailed approach for coping and keeping your head. As a clinician who has worked with individuals who suffer from this disorder, as well as the people who know them, I found his guidance to harmonize with my own experience and to echo the advice I often give to my own clients.
--Joseph Burgo, PhD, psychotherapist, PsychologyToday blogger, and author of The Narcissist You Know, Why Do I Do That?, and the forthcoming Shame--Joseph Burgo, PhD
If somebody you care about struggles with BPD, this book will change your relationship with them forever! In this well-crafted guide, Jerold Kreisman masterfully describes the unique communication challenges this disorder produces and offers practical, step-by-step examples of how to deal with them effectively. You will think someone has been eavesdropping on your conversations! If your desire is to better connect with a loved one in your life with BPD and save yourself future emotional exhaustion in the process, it is unlikely that you will find a better resource.
--Jeff Riggenbach, PhD, president at the CBT Institute of Oklahoma, and author of Borderline Personality Disorder Toolbox--Jeff Riggenbach, PhD
Those who struggle to keep the peace with difficult people in their daily lives will find these explanations and strategies extremely informative and helpful. You can be effective, and Jerold Kreisman will show you how!
--Sandy Hotchkiss, PsyD, LCSW, author of Why Is It Always About You?--Sandy Hotchkiss, PsyD, LCSW
The lessons in respectful listening and mindful speech offered by this book will serve a broad audience. Ultimately, everyone struggles--to some degree or another--to understand and be understood. My commitment to feminist critiques of psychiatric categories leads me to be cautious around diagnostic terminology that labels one person in a conflict as disordered, but with that caveat in mind, I think of this book as an instruction in the ?humble warrior' pose of difficult conversations, as it advocates strength, balance, and grace in communicating with clients and loved ones who experience heightened interpersonal sensitivities. I can't think of qualities more necessary in the current moment than those modeled here by Kreisman: support, empathy, truth, understanding, and perseverance.
--Merri Lisa Johnson, professor of women's and gender studies at USC Upstate, and author of Girl in Need of a Tourniquet--Merri Lisa Johnson
Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder is a much-needed book for loved ones of someone with BPD, as well as for psychotherapists. I've had many clients throughout my forty years as a therapist who are at their wit's end when it comes to knowing how to communicate with a BPD loved one without the conversation escalating into an argument. Kreisman presents effective strategies to help readers learn how to communicate in the best way possible to ensure that they are heard, and their loved one doesn't feel humiliated or blamed. I will recommend this book to many of my clients and colleagues.
--Beverly Engel, LMFT, author of It Wasn't Your Fault--Beverly Engel, LMFT
Author Bio
Randi Kreger has brought the concerns of family members who have a loved one with BPD to an international forefront through her www.bpdcentral.com , and the Welcome to Oz online support community. Through Eggshells Press, she offers family members a wide variety of more specialized booklets and other materials. She was also instrumental in the formation of the Personality Disorders Awareness Network (PDAN), a not-for-profit organization. Kreger is author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and The Essential Family Member Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. She speaks and gives workshops about BPD internationally.