by WendyT.Behary (Author), WendyT.Behary (Author)
What can you do with the narcissistic people in your life? They're frustrating (and maybe even intimidating) to deal with. But sometimes you genuinely care for one of them. And you might need to interact with others in social or professional settings. Sometimes it doesn't won't work to simply ignore them. You need to find a way of communicating effectively with narcissists, getting your point across and meeting your needs while sidestepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments.This book offers several strategies for dealing effectively with someone who is at the centre of his or her own universe. Readers will learn how to move past the narcissist's defences with compassionate, empathetic communication. They'll learn to understand the worldview and coping styles of narcissists and why it's often sad and lonely to be a narcissist. By anticipating and avoiding certain hot-button issues, readers will discover ways to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, readers will find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist. Also covered are strategies for limit setting and for knowing when to draw the line on unacceptable behaviour.
Format: Paperback
Pages: 184
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications,U.S.
Published: 17 Apr 2008
ISBN 10: 1572245190
ISBN 13: 9781572245198
. ..a valuable contribution to the growing self-help literature on the fascinating subject of narcissism. Behary takes the reader step-by-step through a process of understanding our personal triggers to the wounding inherent in narcissistic relations and then lays out a pathway for personal empowerment and change.
--Sandy Hotchkiss, LCSW, author of Why Is It Always About You?
Anyone whose life predicament includes dealing with a narcissist will bewell-advised to read Wendy Behary s book and heed her advice. Disarming theNarcissist offers sound suggestions and keen insights a breakthrough in oneof psychology's toughest cases.
Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence
.. .a valuable contribution to the growing self-help literature on the fascinating subject of narcissism. Behary takes the reader step-by-step through a process of understanding our personal triggers to the wounding inherent in narcissistic relations and then lays out a pathway for personal empowerment and change.
Sandy Hotchkiss, LCSW, author of Why Is It Always About You?
This is a timely and important book. Wendy Behary offers a uniquely well-articulated exploration of the complexities of living with a narcissist, conveyed in a clear and elegant writing style. Disarming the Narcissist provides a treasure of insightful observations and strategies to help those working or living with a narcissist. Behary s wisdom and warm humanity, together with her wide understanding and successful integration of interpersonal neurobiology and schema therapy, provides a fresh perspective that will help the reader make sense of relationships that often seem so confusing and give them tools to do something about it. I recommend this book heartily.
Marion F. Solomon, Ph.D., author of Narcissism and Intimacy and Lean on Me
For the practicing clinician there is perhaps no other group of clients more difficult to work with or that generates more fear and feelings of inadequacy than narcissists. In Disarming the Narcissist, Behary has provided both the theoretical knowledge and practical advice necessary for clinicians to understand, empathize and, thus, help this challenging group of clients and their partners. Her disarmingly straightforward, accessible style and impressive clinical experience make this a very valuable book indeed.
William M. Zangwill, Ph.D., director of EMDR Associates
Behary is an exceptionally perceptive, compassionate, and creative clinician and an outstanding teacher. I have always found her immersed at the cutting edge of clinical science and practice. It has been both a privilege and an inspiration to watch her vision and clinical contributions evolve. These remarkable qualities are clearly evident in her new book, which I have no doubt will make a major contribution. It will bring anyone who deals with narcissism fully up to date with the latest our field has to offer, articulated in clear, poignant, and practical terms.
George Lockwood, Ph.D., director of the Schema Therapy Institute Midwest in Kalamazoo, MI
Anyone whose life predicament includes dealing with a narcissist will bewell-advised to read Wendy Behary's book and heed her advice. Disarming theNarcissist offers sound suggestions and keen insights--a breakthrough in oneof psychology's toughest cases.
--Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence
.. .a valuable contribution to the growing self-help literature on the fascinating subject of narcissism. Behary takes the reader step-by-step through a process of understanding our personal triggers to the wounding inherent in narcissistic relations and then lays out a pathway for personal empowerment and change.
--Sandy Hotchkiss, LCSW, author of Why Is It Always About You?
This is a timely and important book. Wendy Behary offers a uniquely well-articulated exploration of the complexities of living with a narcissist, conveyed in a clear and elegant writing style. Disarming the Narcissist provides a treasure of insightful observations and strategies to help those working or living with a narcissist. Behary's wisdom and warm humanity, together with her wide understanding and successful integration of interpersonal neurobiology and schema therapy, provides a fresh perspective that will help the reader make sense of relationships that often seem so confusing and give them tools to do something about it. I recommend this book heartily.
--Marion F. Solomon, Ph.D., author of Narcissism and Intimacy and Lean on Me
For the practicing clinician there is perhaps no other group of clients more difficult to work with or that generates more fear and feelings of inadequacy than narcissists. In Disarming the Narcissist , Behary has provided both the theoretical knowledge and practical advice necessary for clinicians to understand, empathize and, thus, help this challenging group of clients and their partners. Her disarmingly straightforward, accessible style and impressive clinical experience make this a very valuable book indeed.
--William M. Zangwill, Ph.D., director of EMDR Associates
Behary is an exceptionally perceptive, compassionate, and creative clinician and an outstanding teacher. I have always found her immersed at the cutting edge of clinical science and practice. It has been both a privilege and an inspiration to watch her vision and clinical contributions evolve. These remarkable qualities are clearly evident in her new book, which I have no doubt will make a major contribution. It will bring anyone who deals with narcissism fully up to date with the latest our field has to offer, articulated in clear, poignant, and practical terms.
--George Lockwood, Ph.D., director of the Schema Therapy Institute Midwest in Kalamazoo, MI