Be Happy Without Being Perfect: How to Break Free from the Perfection Deception: How to break free from the perfection deception in all aspects of your life

Be Happy Without Being Perfect: How to Break Free from the Perfection Deception: How to break free from the perfection deception in all aspects of your life

by Alice D . Domar (Author)

Synopsis

Chasing perfection is a phenomenon that leads women to underappreciate and loathe their lives. Be Happy Without Being Perfect is about learning how to reset unrealistically high expectations and replace them with realistic, attainable goals that will result in success rather than failure. It will explain how to create reasonable expectations for your home, your family, your relationships, your job, your body and your bank account.Dr Alice Domar will share lessons such as:*Why we expect so much of ourselves and how failure to live up to our own expectations can affect our emotional and physical health*How to create realistic expectations, set attainable goals, and stop being so hard on yourself when you fall short of your own expectations*How to alleviate the guilt and shame that perfectionism can trigger*How to accept inadequacies in the areas in which perfectionist thinking is particularly prevalent and damagingBe Happy Without Being Perfect provides the keys to releasing women from the straitjacket of stress and worry, showing them how to relax, enjoy and embrace what they have.

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Format: Paperback
Pages: 304
Publisher: Piatkus Books
Published: 03 Apr 2008

ISBN 10: 0749928522
ISBN 13: 9780749928520
Book Overview: Change your expectations to achieve your goals.

Media Reviews
., A wonderful antidote for the anxious, depressed woman for whom no level of achievement seems to be enough. Doctor Domar fills her easy-to-read book with real life examples from her own practice and offers sold, innovative advice for dealing with unreasonable expectations of life and of self. --Marianne J. Legato, M.D., founder and director, Foundation for Gender-Specific Medicine Finally the message all women need to hear. It is time to stop beating yourself up and read Be Happy Without Being Perfect, It will save your life! --Susan Love M.D., president and medical director, Dr. Susan Love Research Foundation, and author of Dr. Susan Love's Menopause and Hormone Book: Making Informed Choices, and Dr. Susan Love's Breast Book Smartly written, greatly insightful...there's not a woman I know who wouldn't benefit from reading this book. Take in its lessons and you will find a deeper level of contentment and satisfaction in each day. This is essential reading for every woman. --Miriam Nelson, Ph.D., associate professor, Friedman School of Nutrition Science and Policy, Tufts University and author of the bestselling Strong Women book series, Giving up perfect sets women on the road to true and sustainable health. If you feel trapped in any way by the need to have a perfect body, a perfect house, or perfect life on any level-you need this book. Now! --Christiane Northrup, M.D., author of Mother-Daughter Wisdom, The Wisdom of Menopause, and Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom Perfection is the enemy of happiness. Dr. Domar teaches us to be more accepting of ourselves so we don't live in fear of failure. --Mehmet Oz, M.D., professor ofsurgery, New York-Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia Medical Center Reading Be Happy Without Being Perfect allows women to exhale-- finally. We women are so tough on ourselves, that it takes a masterful advisor to get us to step back and think about changing our daily thoughts as well as our habits. Reading this book is like having a truly close friend, who you trust, and who just happens to be a psychologist, nutritionist and coach. The book is wise, humane, and it goes down easy. I enjoyed reading it- what's more, I have zeroxed a few of the pages and put them up in strategic zones ( bathroom mirror, refrigerator door). There is something in this book for just about every woman I know.--Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., professor of sociology, University of Washington and author of Prime: Adventures and Advice about Love and Sex and the Sensual Years We strive for perfection in everything we do...Work, the kids, the meals, and trying to be the dutiful spouse. But where does happiness fit into that equation? Not to worry. Dr. Ali Domar tackles all the misconceptions (and misplaced pressures) and gets you back on the right track. Be Happy Without Being Perfect gives you permission to be you, to be good enough, and find happiness along the way. It's a must for each and every one of us. --Nancy Snyderman, M.D., chief medical editor NBC News In her work as a psychologist, Domar ( Conquering Infertility: Dr. Alice Domar's Mind/Body Guide to Enhancing Fertility and Coping with Infertility ) found that many of her clients felt overwhelmed, depressed, and out of control in trying to live up to the media's depictions of women as perfect mothers, spouses, hostesses, anddecision makers. Together with fitness writer Kelly, Domar here shows that perfectionism has been an issue for American women since colonial times, long before Martha Stewart made the scene. In her survey of more than 50 women whose observations and advice appear throughout the text, Domar identifies six areas of perfectionism: health and personal appearance, housekeeping, work, relationships, parenting, and decision making. In each of these areas, she demonstrates how the technique of cognitive restructuring, or retraining your brain, can be used to reframe common distortions in thinking and result in realistic expectations and happier lives. Many women will recognize themselves in the descriptions given by Domar and her respondents, and even nonperfectionists can benefit from her advice on decision making and coping with everyday stressors (e.g., journaling, meditation). Recommended for self-help and women's health collections in public libraries. -- Library Journal From the Hardcover edition.
Author Bio
Dr Alice Domar is a professor of Obstetrics, gynaecology and reproductive biology at Harvard Medical School. She is also a psychologist at Beth Israel Medical Centre. She lectures all over the world.