Iris and the Friends: A Year of Memories

by JohnBayley (Author)

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  Hardcover
  1999

  $3.31

  The last month or so of the life of Iris Bayley, the wife of the author, provides the framework for this biography. But within this structure the author enters into extensive memories of the past. The book could almost be called The Use of Memory - in a Proustian sense. It continually harks back to the author's own childhood and to Iris's early years to explain how they came together and how they were 'right' for each other. So in this book the author explains much more about himself and describes in much more details how he managed to cope with the ordeal of seeing his wife become terminally ill and lose her faculties. In this he quotes a considerable amount from literature, which is his own field of study.

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  Paperback
  2000

  $3.31

  After more than three years of suffering from Alzheimer's disease, the novelist and philosopher Iris Murdoch died in January 1999. Early that month she was taken to a home for the terminally ill, and she remained radiant and calm for the last weeks of her life. The last year or so of Iris Murdoch's life provides the framework for IRIS AND THE FRIENDS, but within this structure John Bayley returns repeatedly to memories of his own earlier life, and of more than forty years of marriage to Iris. Alzheimer's is a lonely predicament for the carer, and Bayley describes how he copes with the ordeal of watching his wife become terminally ill by forming a growing dependency on memory as a stand-by, consolation and friend. In the final chapters, Bayley describes his wife's death which was an entirely serene one. He writes of how he is learning to cope with the loss of Iris, and how he is creating a new life for himself. Partly an autobiography, partly the biography of a marriage, IRIS AND THE FRIENDS provides a sensitive and, at times, a gently humourous lesson in the uses of adversity and will enthrall those fans of IRIS who wanted to know more about Bayley himself.